SOHH Over It!

July 20th in Toronto

“Rock the Bells” Concert

Rakim

Nas

Ghostface

Method Man

Redman

A Tribe Called Quest

De La Soul

Mos Def

Hosted by B-Real

I’m just sayin…

let me know if this link works:

http://www.zshare.net/download/1206461360ed892f/

And as per our conversation yesterday..

At the end of the day, Dig posted a convo where she mentioned she stuck her finger “where the sun don’t shine” and Mister liked it, but was freaked out that he liked it.

Now, I’ve done that before, and while men SAY they aren’t into it, I’ve never had one complain…after I did it. But they totally would never have gone for it if I’d asked…

So….my question is…

Is that out of pocket to try something you think your man might really like, even though it might be considered a little…..”of the ghey”?

reprinted with permission from my homie El Machetero from the T.Dot (who also happens to be one of my fave DJs):

Fatherless Children

“None of us are in any position to front……this is a huge problem. Especially in our Latino and Black communities, but definitely not exclusively so.

It really never ceases to shock me to find out time and time again that every other person i know practically grew up not even knowing who their father is, and almost everybody else grew up knowing WHO their father was, but with him being such a non-presence in their lives, that he may as well have remained a stranger.

i don’t think i need to say anything about how this often ends up becoming a pattern, both in terms of the negative cycle that so many dudes end up perpetuating, and in terms of what type of relationships a lot of women who grow up fatherless end up having with the men in their lives.

Growing up, me and my papa definitely had our struggles and our share of harsh moments, but at least he has always been a part of my life and the lives of my siblings. And if any of you know anything about the circumstances under which i grew up, you will know that this was no small accomplishment.

So anyway……some of you who have known me for a few years may know that i used to work at Jessie’s Centre for Teens down in Regent Park as a facilitator for their young father’s group from 2002-2004. Like many other jobs in the social service sector, it was just a short-term temporary contract, and i was quite dismayed to find out that not long after i was laid off, all of their programming for young dads was scrapped.

Over the weekend, i found out that one of the young dads i worked most closely with committed suicide last year,and i have found out that quite a few of the others i worked with really ain’t doing too hot either.

This is a serious problem. It’s been pointed out time and time again the link this all has with to all of the epidemics that exist in our oppressed communities, from school drop-out rates, to teen pregnancy, to violence in the streets and in the home, to mass incarceration, to the just plain dysfunctional state of how so many of us tend to relate to ourselves and one another.

There is just so much work that needs to be done……..”

Thoughts?

(PS- people who sneeze and don’t cover their mouth in enclosed spaces, like cars and elevators, should be punished with death. I hate the “smell” of sneeze, especially other peoples.)