Yesterday I was leaving the Job and I was listening to a radio show as all of us do. An the discussion about how women should submit to their men. It seems that it women these days would rather win the argument instead of letting the male get the last word an keeping a man. An get this… A Female Dr. totally agreed with the guys and said that women should let their significant others lead. Now men where calling in talking about how their women were neither cooking nor having enough sex with them or even better (which is my favorite) Listening to their no man having friends. The discussion went on with how men for the most part haven't change at all…We still the same as we were 50 yrs ago, and we are simple to understand. Yet women still don't understand what we really want. Or is it that they do and are just not willing to give that up. An since women are prominent in the work force an are in roles of authoritive (sp?) positions that they tend to bring that home where it conflicts with how the marital structure should go… Now to me this is in no means to say that women should be treated as second class citizens…what is simply states is women should understand the role in the family that they have. It was also a survey that came about that asked men what do you want you spouse to say more of…
A. Honey I Love You
B. Honey I Support You
C. Honey I Respect you
More than 70 % of the Men chose B. With the Second one being C. Now why isn't this happening… An another thing where did the respect for the Black Man go?
*NOTE: Before anyone lady goes off the deep end…We're not talking about the sorry ass dudes that are no good….We're talking about the brothers that are doing there jobs and are holding it down…
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June 26, 2007 @ 10:28 am
People misunderstand what "submission" means…it IS about respect and support, not about being "lower" than someone else. It’s more about realizing that in order for things to run smoothly, somebody has to be "in charge", otherwise it’s like being on a ship with 2 captains.
I know I don’t come across as particularly submissive
, but I do try to defer to my husband when I can. I always make sure my point of view is heard, but if he decides something, then we generally go with it.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:34 am
Is this where I say…
DIG, get me a sammich!
Yo, I gotta make a service call.
I’ll holla in a few hours. Hopefully.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:48 am
Depends on your man
B and C are common problems in alot of relationships and Im no expert nor do I think I know everything. But there’s alot of women that want to be the Alpha male in relationships. And for some men that works but for others it causes problems. Some of us like a women to take charge make all the decisions while we just bring home the bacon.
I think some of the problems come in when women don’t identify the type of man they have and adapt accordingly. Some of yall try to take over when your uncomfortable and the sht causes crazy friction.
And love the work it out with her girlfriends portion. That sht is a huge prob too. Cause sht you should be workin out wit your man is worked out wit your girls cause its easier for you. And decisions are made before you speak to us and if we disagree or ain’t feelin it, we’re stupid or being difficult. Gotta love it. Thats why you find some relationship where the man can’t stand her friends and she can’t understand why.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:52 am
This shit is true…the deal with some of the broads I dealt with (in a somewhat serious way) lately is they like being difficult just because in the name of being ‘independent’…shit is mind blowing. Example:
Me: O SHIT they shootin!!! Bitch get down, quick!
Her: Don’t no nigga tell me what to do, you better tell your momma get down…the fuck is wrong with you?
^Then these same bitches wonder why they can’t get, much less keep a good man.
You can’t just have a fucked up day and shorty (gasp) actually try to make it better. Nah…bitch start complaining bout the trash not being taken out & blah blah blah. But let her have a bad day and you’re not waiting on your knees to rub her ass when she comes through the door…bitches ready to wild out.
Know who I blame tho?
-The whole cast of ‘Waiting to Exhale’
-…and Destiny’s Child for ‘Independent Women’
(Yall can tell I been through some shit right?
)
Shit ain’t been right since.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:53 am
i for one, MIGHT not have a problem playing the roles of the ‘resepected submissive’ the problem is… no one has been worth that position. if i’m still in a postion to have to provide equal to/ greater than my s/o (be it $, chores, support, etc) then i dont have time to be that submissive. i got auto-payments on rg&e to set up lol
they are in a way right, but they missed one valid point- granted men havent changed much in 50 years, but the household has- hence the woman hasnt had a choice but to change. now if we want to go back to 1960 and i can quit my job, raise my kids, volunteer and make sure my husband is straight- i will make him a sammich, sit down, shut the hell up and wait for my que to pop his dick in my mouth…BUT BUT BUT life isnt like that- you now need 2 incomes in most households and this leads to the necessity of 2 alphas money makers to stay afloat…
June 26, 2007 @ 10:55 am
Willy LMAO! Shut up!
Men arent the same as they were 50 years ago, but then neither are women.
My opinion: Ever heard someone say ‘let a man be a man?’ Some women hear that and flip out. ‘How the hell you let a man be a man? He either a man or he aint!’ But thats not true.
Its one thing to take the helm because the job is not being done. Its another thing to TAKE control from a perfectly willing and capable man.
Now I dont use the word ’submissive’ because I happen to think its an ugly word, but I do subscribe to the principle. As a man, you should be able to run your ship, but understand, the difference between you and I under this roof is not much. Because I think both parties are just as important in keeping the flow correct, and if either side is outta whack, that shit is gonna fall apart.
So what that means (for me) is not so much being dependent on you but relying on you, which (to me) is different. It means that I expect you to do and take care of certain things, but should you not do them, I step in.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:57 am
I agree with Trojan man…on the following point:
1) I think for some women they have girlfriends that know way to much about the relationship they homegirl is in. i mean way to much, but it boils down to ur friends, and this is something that ive learned men dont do, run to they boys for advice. If u have homeys that will give u support or advice but at the end of the day can care absolute less about medling or u have friends that just cause they may not be in a relationship dont mean they gon sabotage what u have cause they are happy in the situation they in….i think u are setup with a good network of friends. But ive seen women who homegirls just fucking miserable and damnit i aint got a man u aint gon have one neither..so i think there is a thin line between that but for the most part i can agree with this subject
and …for this question: where did the respect for the Black Man go?
I think that went out the WOP! If u can find me a good black man that aint got to be schoold on how to be a man, and im talking bout a nigga that can demand respect and take chrage but at the same time make his women feel like queen she is …and can handle other things he need to be handling…ull find a woman that would be willing to submit to her man with no probs.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:58 am
2 alphas money makers to stay afloat…
It shouldnt come down to money. Because most people use money as control or power over the other… Now Im all for a woman that makes more money than me I can handle that but dont think Im less than a man because of it. Thats what most women do.
June 26, 2007 @ 10:59 am
And Banga, I agree with part of what you said, and thats the reason (and you can ask Cec) I dont go there with my friends. They know something is going on because I disappear and they dont hear from me. I cant let other people influence my take on my situation, so I dont even discuss it until its all water under the bridge. Lotta women fuck their own shit up with that.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:02 am
cjp wrote:
It shouldnt come down to money. Because most people use money as control or power over the other… Now Im all for a woman that makes more money than me I can handle that but dont think Im less than a man because of it. Thats what most women do.
26/06 10:58:45
my point was not the money (see cjp- you gotta read boo boo lol) the point is if you haeve 2 people that are "alpha money makers" you are going to have 2 veiws on running the house, who’ in power, you has the conrtol, what to do with what money… etc etc etc… you can have that and have harmony. SOMEONE has to be in charge. one alpha person is going to have to take the support role
June 26, 2007 @ 11:03 am
mmhmm and usually for me, i gotta talk stuff out cause i either check perspective OR make sure im not the one at fault and cant see it. The thing i like about talking to Dig or Persia is they are both women that will listen, advice and then leave me the hell alone and if i make a decision they dont agree with ..the response i get is girl i support u do what u gotta…and then thats it. some women arent like that. they will meddle and get in the way til next thing u know u cant even think for urself cause ur girls are controlling everthing.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:04 am
ok going to lunch brb
June 26, 2007 @ 11:05 am
Men arent the same as they were 50 years ago
I think we are… We still want the same things we wanted then… Feed me Fuck me and Shut the Fuck up…. Now wasnt said to be rude but women just forget this shit. and what I mean by shut the fuck up is dont always nit pick or hit a dude with the one two soon as he gets home. Women wanna dicuss discuss discuss… where as men want to solve and move on. But is hard to solve when your always discussing.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:05 am
get me a side salad cec!
June 26, 2007 @ 11:05 am
Cosign to DIG
Thats exactly what Im sayin ma
the man is in charge of certain shit as a women is also in charge of certain sht which sht ain’t important as long as there helpin each other fill the void if in the event the other can’t.
Thats what Completing each other means and where trust comes into play.
But reality is now there’s alot of women who don’t trust their man to do what he’s supposed to do. And Alot of Woman that don’t treat their man as their equal. The shts crazy cause I see alot of broken down worn out men thats in their 40’s wit women that make em misreable and don’t allow them to have input in sht and some women think this is how its supposed to be. i guess if thats your type of man that works. But most of us aren’t gonna take to that sht
June 26, 2007 @ 11:07 am
cjp wrote:
I think we are… We still want the same things we wanted then… Feed me Fuck me and Shut the Fuck up…. Now wasnt said to be rude but women just forget this shit. and what I mean by shut the fuck up is dont always nit pick or hit a dude with the one two soon as he gets home. Women wanna dicuss discuss discuss… where as men want to solve and move on. But is hard to solve when your always discussing.
calarification: solve DOES NOT equal ignore/ sweep under the rug/ not address
imho- doing that is in part to blame for the nagging from women. that ‘oh no MF, we GONNA fix this" attitude. the other part is we just like to run our mouths- yes, i’ll admit it
June 26, 2007 @ 11:07 am
CJP - My bad, I didnt mean ‘men’ per se, I meant men in households.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:07 am
Persia
a view is diffrent than someone Wantint to be in control.. And a lot of women dont want to let go of control… That shit scares them.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:11 am
dig wrote:
And Banga, I agree with part of what you said, and thats the reason (and you can ask Cec) I dont go there with my friends.
Claps
your girls should have your back but yall shouldn’t be makin decisions for her relationship
they don’t know your man like you do
so takin advice from them on how to deal wit your man is only gone get you but so far.
Plus if your in a good relationship
please only take advice from someone else in a good relationship
don’t ask your girl Keisha whose man cheated on her 4 times and they break up and get back together like lego blocks what she would do. Thats just stupid!
June 26, 2007 @ 11:11 am
calarification: solve DOES NOT equal ignore/ sweep under the rug/ not address
*****
Banga, exactly. Sometimes the ‘what’ is too big a focus with folks. Who the hell cares how you divvy up stuff, as long as someone is responsible for it and actually doing it.
Let me tell you, I would LOVE nothing more than to have a man that WANTS to be the head of the household and doesnt have to defer to me for every damn thing. Yes, I wanna be consulted, but I been Captain Ahab for a long damn time and I aint got no problem lettin somebody else steer this muthafucka as long as I know they not gon send us head first into an iceberg.
My solution men, do what you say you gon do. I guarantee that will put yall in a lot better position. And stop that wishy washy shit. She not gon trust you to lead if you YOU dont trust you lead.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:13 am
calarification: solve DOES NOT equal ignore/ sweep under the rug/ not address
The only reason these happen is because you’re getting an earfull about the situation… An im sorry it seems as if some women just want you to speak on something so they can just blab away at how they feel about things.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:14 am
Im not gon front, I have to feel like I have control - but thats regarding my life in general. If I feel like Im losing a grasp on what the hell is going on around me, I verge on nervous breakdown, LOL. But I think everyone is that way to an extent. You wanna feel like you have control over your life.
A relationship is different though cause its not just about you. And I think thats what fucks people up too, cause they get selfish and start making calls for themselves that affect the other person too. And yes, do whats best for you, but if whats best for you is to disregard the affects your decisions have on your partner, then whats best for you is not to be there at all.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:15 am
cjp- its not so much a woman wont give up control, its the track record of the specific man not being a leader. how i’m gonna logically take a postion not knowing if in the end, i’ma end up in the passenger seat of the car mashed up against the brick wall lol
June 26, 2007 @ 11:16 am
cjp wrote:
It shouldnt come down to money. Because most people use money as control or power over the other… Now Im all for a woman that makes more money than me I can handle that but dont think Im less than a man because of it. Thats what most women do.
26/06 10:58:45
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I find the reverse to be true- I find that men can sometimes fall into the trap of acting like they own you because they pay a couple of bills. I make more money than my husband, but I would never think of throwing that in his face, but I know I’m not the only one who’s heard dudes talk about chicks like "i’ll just replace you, because I have enough money to get anybody I want."
June 26, 2007 @ 11:16 am
But reality is now there’s alot of women who don’t trust their man to do what he’s supposed to
An that the thing right there… Why would you be with someone that you cant trust to handle shit. If you cant trust him to do what he should be doing…TYA
June 26, 2007 @ 11:16 am
think we are… We still want the same things we wanted then… Feed me Fuck me and Shut the Fuck up…. Now wasnt said to be rude but women just forget this shit. and what I mean by shut the fuck up is dont always nit pick or hit a dude with the one two soon as he gets home.
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I agree but Im starting to think its in their DNA(Im gonna get killed for this)
Yall need someone to bitch too
A women that don’t have nothing to complain about are the quietest most boring bitches on the planet
I’ve already takin the Loss CJP
The chick I marry is never gonna shut the fk up.
Thats why i learned to play video games and listen at the same time
June 26, 2007 @ 11:16 am
‘The only reason these happen is because you’re getting an earfull about the situation… An im sorry it seems as if some women just want you to speak on something so they can just blab away at how they feel about things.’
I dont know about that. Some people just like to avoid difficult conversation. But I have to say if a woman feels some kinda way about something, your best bet is to know how it is she feels about it. Otherwise, that emotion just sits there and festers….
June 26, 2007 @ 11:19 am
@JAE
I find the reverse to be true- I find that men can sometimes fall into the trap of acting like they own you because they pay a couple of bills.
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depends on the Man! and the situation
because some men bring it up cause they don’t feel appreciated
June 26, 2007 @ 11:20 am
But dont get me wrong, some women do just bitch ALL THE DAMN TIME. Im not talkin bout them women. Im talkin bout the ones who really are bothered by something in particular.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:21 am
cjp wrote:
Women wanna dicuss discuss discuss… where as men want to solve and move on. But is hard to solve when your always discussing.
26/06 11:05:23
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Point taken, but when "solving" means not talking about it in the hopes tht it will go away and "she’ll get over it", that doesn’t work. If you actually take the 5 minutes to "Lis-sun" (as Beyonce sang), it would probably save another 15 minutes of "We need to talk."
June 26, 2007 @ 11:22 am
cjp- its not so much a woman wont give up control, its the track record of the specific man not being a leader
You shouldnt be in that type of position. You should know more about him before anybody just takes the wheel.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:24 am
@DIG
NAH yall love to complain
some less than others but all yall do your fair share of bitchin
yall jus start off slow and then one day its
I hate this fkin job
can you believe what this bitch did today
Some people are so rude
I got cramps!
and thats when its butt rub time
June 26, 2007 @ 11:24 am
Thats why i learned to play video games and listen at the same time
Maannnn that shit dont work… thats how you get the controller thrown out the window…
June 26, 2007 @ 11:28 am
Banga: Not all of us. I hate to complain. Do I have a bad day? Yeah. But so do yall. Difference is, we give credit for yall not having the best of days but with yall, we cant ever get a break. We’re ‘bitchin’ the second we aint talkin bout how fucken great yall are, LOL. And not being a person who does that a lot, I personally find it insulting when a man says that to me. Im entitled to have a rough day, and not only that, I probably have a lot more rough days than ‘he’ has any idea about because I DONT bitch about it. I just go home and make some fucken crablegs and call it a day.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:28 am
I dont know about that. Some people just like to avoid difficult conversation.
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An thats true…cause some of us do have a hard time communicating about things.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:30 am
cjp wrote:
You shouldnt be in that type of position. You should know more about him before anybody just takes the wheel.
26/06 11:22:29
EXACTLY!!! you just hit the nail on the head as to why i havent given that postion to anyone in my life thus far
June 26, 2007 @ 11:30 am
Point taken, but when "solving" means not talking about it in the hopes tht it will go away and "she’ll get over it", that doesn’t work. If you actually take the 5 minutes to "Lis-sun" (as Beyonce sang), it would probably save another 15 minutes of "We need to talk."
26/06 11:21:36
NOT TRUE
Yall want to be heard, Identified wit and related too.
Problem is even though you may have a beef doesn’t mean its a good or valid one.
How many times have you heard one of your girls bitch about something her man does and you say to yourself
thats not a big deal!
This is why men pull hair and smack ass during sex. Its pay back for having to lis-sun to some of that bullsht
June 26, 2007 @ 11:31 am
I probably have a lot more rough days than ‘he’ has any idea about
An that goes the other way also… But men are taught not to complain…not to bitch cause in most cases its seen as a sign of weakness.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:32 am
TROJAN MAN wrote:
This is why men pull hair and smack ass during sex. Its pay back for having to lis-sun to some of that bullsht
26/06 11:30:29
*mental note*
bitch and complain MORE!
June 26, 2007 @ 11:33 am
We’re ‘bitchin’ the second we aint talkin bout how fucken great yall are, LOL. And not being a person who does that a lot,
I DONT bitch about it. I just go home and make some fucken crablegs and call it a day.
26/06 11:28:07
you just contradicted yourself
doesn’t jr know moms had a bad day when he sees crab legs ……its the same sht
crabby
tease I tease
June 26, 2007 @ 11:35 am
An that goes the other way also… But men are taught not to complain…not to bitch cause in most cases its seen as a sign of weakness.
********
But thats my point. We can chalk it up to you having a bad day. But when we have a bad day, we’re bitching. And again, Im not talkin bout women who just bitch for sport LOL.
I mean men dont give women room for nothing LOL. Ok, so you found the perfect woman FOR YOU. Please realize that she isnt ACTUALLY perfect LOL.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:36 am
*mental note*
bitch and complain MORE!
26/06 11:32:59
didn’t - smack smack smack
I - smack smack smack
you - smack
to - smack
shut - smack
the - smackY smack smack
fk - smaAAAAAAAAck
up - BONG KA-POW
June 26, 2007 @ 11:37 am
Oh and the one I love most… Women that try to use sex as a form of punishment or reward…. Damn shame
Ladies if you do this you are setting yourself up for failure…
June 26, 2007 @ 11:38 am
‘doesn’t jr know moms had a bad day when he sees crab legs ……its the same sht’
Thats not a contradiction: Its never my objective to HIDE that I have had a bad day. The objective is to understand that thats life and bad days are inevitable. So rather than complain, I do something that makes me feel better and I keep it moving.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:38 am
@CJP
I quit school cause of Recess
June 26, 2007 @ 11:40 am
To me, thats the problem with people in general. Some shit is just outside of your control and complaining about it aint gon make it go away. Control what you have the power to control, and let the rest of that shit go.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:40 am
TROJAN MAN wrote:
@CJP
I quit school cause of Recess
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AWWWready….
June 26, 2007 @ 11:44 am
depends on the Man! and the situation
because some men bring it up cause they don’t feel appreciated
26/06 11:19:30
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But if that’s the case, wouldn’t the reverse be true for the women as well? maybe those women bring it up because they feel they aren’t being appreciated.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:46 am
Jaeda: Yup. I think appreciation is a big deal in relationships. You can love somebody til your bones hurt, but if they dont feel like they are appreciated, you get all kindsa fallout.
June 26, 2007 @ 11:48 am
maybe those women bring it up because they feel they aren’t being appreciated.
Ok then…Ladies in ya last relationship or your current did you feel appreciated?…AND if not How?
June 26, 2007 @ 11:48 am
But if that’s the case, wouldn’t the reverse be true for the women as well? maybe those women bring it up because they feel they aren’t being appreciated.
26/06 11:44:58
I agree wit that it goes both ways
but if your complaining about your man more than your building him up
Your headed for self destruction and it he’s bringing that sht up its a warning sign
June 26, 2007 @ 11:48 am
I think thats valid though. I dont wanna be a seatfiller. I wanna know Im here because you want ME here and not just SOMEBODY here.
June 26, 2007 @ 12:15 pm
ok im back…catch me up cause im to tired and hot to read from where i left off LOL
June 26, 2007 @ 12:16 pm
ok im back…catch me up cause im to tired and hot to read from where i left off LOL
June 26, 2007 @ 1:11 pm
TROJAN MAN wrote:
didn’t - smack smack smack
I - smack smack smack
you - smack
to - smack
shut - smack
the - smackY smack smack
fk - smaAAAAAAAAck
up - BONG KA-POW
ohhhhhhhhhhhh… yes daddy!! do it again!
June 26, 2007 @ 1:15 pm
In my last relationship I felt used, not appreciated…but since I was young(er) and dumb (er), i stayed around longer than I should have.
In my marriage, I definitely feel appreciated- even more so when he got laid off and truly got to see and experience "what I did all day" lol- the first thing he told me was "I had no idea it was this hard" lmao. And I appreciate him very much- we have our moments, but we both have supported each other through some tough times and that’s really how it should be.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:18 pm
CJP:
In my last relationship, everything was everything for a pretty good while… buncha talk about ‘waiting his whole life for this’ and then it seemed like outta the blue, any and everything that happened in his life would cause him to have to ‘take a break’ and I got tired of the contradiction. This is not how you treat the so-called best thing that ever happened to you.
But he would say there wasnt anyone else, he would say his feelings had not changed, but he would still wanna break up every 3 or 4 weeks cause something going on elsewhere had him needing to get his mind right and I just felt like I was being taken for granted. At some point, I had to just say to myself that this isnt where he really wants to be, or else he would be here.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:23 pm
cjp wrote:
Ok then…Ladies in ya last relationship or your current did you feel appreciated?…AND if not How?
26/06 11:48:16
no, i didnt… what it boiled down to was i asked for 1 full evening/night to be mine- no business, no friends, etc.. the rest of the time, we check on eachother, get up a few times a week, but no stress. he thought i was asking too much. i eventually got bored of waiting…
June 26, 2007 @ 1:26 pm
"I had no idea it was this hard" lmao
no offense Jae
but he was tryna get some ass
sorry I couldn’t resist
June 26, 2007 @ 1:28 pm
Persia wrote:
cjp wrote:
Ok then…Ladies in ya last relationship or your current did you feel appreciated?…AND if not How?
26/06 11:48:16
no, i didnt…
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Did he eat the box!
cause if he did
I don’t see what your complaining about
as a matter of fact he wasn’t appreciated
wit your self ass
June 26, 2007 @ 1:33 pm
TROJAN MAN wrote:
Did he eat the box!
cause if he did
I don’t see what your complaining about
as a matter of fact he wasn’t appreciated
wit your self ass
26/06 13:28:40
yes, in the beginning and kinda after that… enough to get away with saying he did. you know when a chick just licks the tip with a stiff tounge and a grimace on her face? the male equivalnt of that. meanwhile, i’m overe here with lock jaw- not right i tell you- NOT RIGHT! :tearssad:
June 26, 2007 @ 1:33 pm
June 26, 2007 @ 1:34 pm
hey yo dig…. hey, um… you cancelled that deep sea fishing expidition due to rough waters in the region? damn…
June 26, 2007 @ 1:34 pm
dig
that wasnt somebody not appreciating you…that was somebody that maybe couldnt hadle what you were offering at that time… maybe for him you are the best thing to happen to him but the timing just aint right…
Persia
Ok Persia Im kinda confused (Im sorry Im a guy) What did you REALLY want from dude.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:35 pm
ohhhhhhhhhhhh… yes daddy!! do it again!
26/06 13:11:49
AHHHHH
SKEET SKEET SKEET SKEET
I think I got some on the ceiling
I’ll clean that up later……unless you gotta ladder
June 26, 2007 @ 1:36 pm
cjp- for real, i wanted ONE night for me, some sporadic break me off with some dick or watch a movie, etc time over the rest of the week and the rest- do you.
oh, and he needed to eat more
June 26, 2007 @ 1:37 pm
i’m overe here with lock jaw- not right i tell you- NOT RIGHT!
26/06 13:33:02
LOCK JAW holy hot damn!
Ladies and Gentleman we have a Winner!
June 26, 2007 @ 1:38 pm
P
so you tryna tell me he never spent a night with you?
June 26, 2007 @ 1:39 pm
CJP - Im sorry, but thats bullshit.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:43 pm
cjp- no he spent alot of them…. but getting there after i’m asleep dosent really qualify as ‘quality time’
June 26, 2007 @ 1:43 pm
dig wrote:
CJP - Im sorry, but thats bullshit.
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It might be bullshit to you cause you might not be willing to accept that… some things are kinda hard to deal with
June 26, 2007 @ 1:45 pm
Persia wrote:
cjp- no he spent alot of them…. but getting there after i’m asleep dosent really qualify as ‘quality time’
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Ok Persia… I say this with all due respect but sweetie you didnt know your role. You were in the #3 position and you were trying to move up to #1 and that doesnt go that way.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:45 pm
And another thing, CJP….
I’ve left out a lotta details, but I happen to know that had they been put in the same position, I dont know a woman on the planet that wouldnt be rippin him a new asshole every chance she got, blasting dude every chance she got, calling him everything but a child of God every chance she got….. He and I run in the same circles, and I have never gone on a rampage, tried to play him or call him out or NOTHING of that sort. I still speak to dude on the regular.
Now….. I dont require praise or acknowledgement for anything that I do, cause what I do is just me. But since this is the topic at hand, I must say that I have never once heard any appreciation for not going buckin on him, but let me get outta my line ONCE and I guarantee you it gets pointed out.
Thats just an example to how dudes always lookin at the wrong shit, but we bear the blame when shit gets fucked up. *SMH*
June 26, 2007 @ 1:49 pm
It might be bullshit to you cause you might not be willing to accept that… some things are kinda hard to deal with
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Honestly, CJP, it would be EASIER to deal with for me. But lets just say this were the case, then my problem would be that dude couldnt own that. Dont talk mansions and then give me keys to a spot in the projects, you know what Im sayin?
June 26, 2007 @ 1:50 pm
Ah DIG
Dammn Son
WHY
you sound so mad
:scared:
June 26, 2007 @ 1:52 pm
Banga:
Im not mad, Im more irritated, cause I swear dude, you have no idea how many shorts some of us take, but yall good for tellin us how fucked up we are.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:53 pm
LMAO@dig
But dig…isnt that a sign of appreciation if still talks to you and treats you with respect. An the reason why you havent did all that asshole rippin is prob. cause you still got feelings for dude. An the reason that he still around just might be the same… But hell what do I know I just make drinks.
June 26, 2007 @ 1:55 pm
Its like that blog I wrote a lil while back about what the hell is the point in being "that chick" when all dudes want is somebody expendible? Its not hard if thats who you are, but sometimes it really seems like its not worth it, and we might as well be out here fuckin yall over like the rest of the women out there, not givin a damn bout yall cause half of yall dont give a damn bout us, know what I mean?
June 26, 2007 @ 1:56 pm
Dont talk mansions and then give me keys to a spot in the projects, you know what Im sayin?
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Oh so you suffer from post relationship disorder…Meaning: It was all flowers and candy at first and sweet now that its not your upset and now you’re wondering "Why did you say that if you werent gonna do it"…
June 26, 2007 @ 1:57 pm
but yall good for tellin us how fucked up we are.
26/06 13:52:10
I do but thats not fair
we hear about how we ain’t sht all the time
maybe on this blog or because you have alot of male friends and associates you hear it more. But for the most part the census really is men ain’t sht.
I’ll be the first to admit it takes a strong women to deal wit my high yellow hairy ass but but I get in return as much bullsht as I dish out so it goes both ways
June 26, 2007 @ 2:00 pm
CJP:
I dont deny it one bit. I still got feelings for him. But at some point, everybody has to recognize the difference between what they feel and whats real.
But no, having feelings for him is not why Im not rippin him a new one. Im not doing that cause Im a better woman than that.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:00 pm
not givin a damn bout yall cause half of yall dont give a damn bout us, know what I mean
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Well that could be a way to go… but would that really be in you. An do you think dude doesnt give a damn about you?
June 26, 2007 @ 2:04 pm
Oh so you suffer from post relationship disorder…Meaning: It was all flowers and candy at first and sweet now that its not your upset and now you’re wondering "Why did you say that if you werent gonna do it"…
*******
Thats cute.
NO.
It is what it is, homie. You asked a question, I just gave an answer.
At the end of the day, while I fault him for the demise of the relationship, I dont fault him for how I feel about it, because the things I feel a certain kinda way about are things I allowed. But hey, you live and you learn.
Its all good.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:04 pm
But no, having feelings for him is not why Im not rippin him a new one. Im not doing that cause Im a better woman than that.
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But you never know you might have did something an he just havent told you… stranger things have happen.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:06 pm
cjp wrote:
Ok Persia… I say this with all due respect but sweetie you didnt know your role. You were in the #3 position and you were trying to move up to #1 and that doesnt go that way.
26/06 13:45:36
lol, thats funny.. had nothing to do with the # spot- but thats just how dude was… you dont give #3 the keys to all your shit, your ssn and bank info… hell most men dont give #1 all that.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:06 pm
*backs out the door to avoid the cross fire*
June 26, 2007 @ 2:06 pm
Hey I just ask didnt wanna open any wounds…
June 26, 2007 @ 2:09 pm
lol, thats funny.. had nothing to do with the # spot- but thats just how dude was… you dont give #3 the keys to all your shit, your ssn and bank info… hell most men dont give #1 all that.
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To you it might not have but to him it did… If it was cool at first to let him come though late like then he’s not gonna switch… Not when been getting away with the shit.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:10 pm
Well that could be a way to go… but would that really be in you. An do you think dude doesnt give a damn about you?
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Is it in me? Yeah, Ive been that chick before. But I decided it was more important for me to like who I was than for any man to.
As for dude….. what he thinks is a guessing game that I dont really have the energy to play these days. I only know what he tells me, and what he tells me I have to take at face value.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:12 pm
But you never know you might have did something an he just havent told you… stranger things have happen.
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Well thats not a man who deserves to be captain of the ship, now is it?
June 26, 2007 @ 2:14 pm
Well thats not a man who deserves to be captain of the ship, now is it?
Maybe just not for you….
June 26, 2007 @ 2:17 pm
CJP: Dude…. as much as yall talk about "if something is wrong, dont say ‘nothin’ when i ask you" or if there is an issue, bring it to me right then, not a week later…… how you gonna give dude a pass if I did something and he just aint tell me? Thats the double standard I be talkin bout LOL. Yall so funny…LOL.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:17 pm
cjp wrote:
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To you it might not have but to him it did… If it was cool at first to let him come though late like then he’s not gonna switch… Not when been getting away with the shit.
26/06 14:09:59
damn- you cant geta break with the ladies today huh? because you are wrong again… he didnt pull any of the dumb shit at first.. once we gotfurther into it was when he flipped the switch (due to circumstances with ‘work’ that i wont be clarifiying)
i highly suggest you make a new topic… or get some vaseline.. or you might be walking funny by the time you leave this thread homie
June 26, 2007 @ 2:19 pm
Captain says:
Banga! get in there and save CJP
Banga!: Its too dangerous, I tried to warn him he wouldn’t lis-sun
Captain: May god have his soul cause those woman got his ass
June 26, 2007 @ 2:20 pm
Point taken, Banga.
Im done. LOL.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:26 pm
how you gonna give dude a pass if I did something and he just aint tell me?
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First off…I didnt give dude shit. But hey thats how it goes… just boil the crablegs an forget about it
P
You wanted more and he just didnt want to give it to you…but ok New Topic
June 26, 2007 @ 2:26 pm
*looks around*
damn.. someone need to clean this place up!
*kicks a broken chair leg*
niggas…
June 26, 2007 @ 2:29 pm
Fuck it.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:30 pm
*comes out from under the table*
is it safe, Persia? :scared:
June 26, 2007 @ 2:30 pm
Damn why yall put on the mad face… It was just a discussion. Dude cant win for losing.
June 26, 2007 @ 2:31 pm
is it safe, Persia?
26/06 14:30:07
I’ll show you safe
maaaaaaaaauuuuuuww :laughevil:
June 26, 2007 @ 2:33 pm
Y do i feel like im walking into something i should probably just turn away from
June 26, 2007 @ 2:35 pm
Just let it go, girl
June 26, 2007 @ 2:49 pm
LOL ok
June 26, 2007 @ 2:53 pm
Damn I didnt mean to clear the room…
June 26, 2007 @ 2:54 pm
yes cec, THIS is something you should let go. THAT is a whole different story tho! hold onto THAT!
June 26, 2007 @ 2:56 pm
LOL ok …what ima do is just walk out slowly…when i get to the door…ima just run
June 26, 2007 @ 2:59 pm
cjp wrote:
Damn I didnt mean to clear the room…
26/06 14:53:36
Yeah you laid a stinky
June 26, 2007 @ 3:01 pm
Yeah you laid a stinky
Yeah…I funked it up in here quite bad. How was I supposed to know it was gon get like that…
June 26, 2007 @ 3:05 pm
My bad, I had to go find an asthma pump to borrow, Im good now
June 26, 2007 @ 3:07 pm
Well damn
June 26, 2007 @ 3:09 pm
Yeah, hyperventilation is a muthafucka
June 26, 2007 @ 3:35 pm
WTH is goin on in here?
And if that wasn’t the most suckiest of service calls EVAR!
5 hours of my life just GONE!
June 26, 2007 @ 3:37 pm
Aint nothing goin on in here now, its a damn ghost town (no DJ’s)
June 26, 2007 @ 3:48 pm
Well damn…lunch for me.
:tearssad:
June 26, 2007 @ 3:48 pm
Aight, Im bout to roll so Ill ttyl.